I HAVE LOW SELF ESTEEM AND THAT’S OK!

confidence in your own worth and abilities. Having self respect.

I can hear the “uh uhs” “not me” or the “never that.” For whatever reason, the thought of having low self esteem or better yet saying it out loud to others is SOCIAL SUICIDE. I mean are you not em-bar-ozzed? Are you not disgusted with yourself? Well, guess what? The first step to fixing a problem is admitting that there is one. And we all can admit that low self esteem is a huge no-no! Pretending that it doesn’t exist though, doesn’t change the fact that you have it.

I remember dealing with this toxic friendship for too long…like too damn long. As I would tell people the stories about how I allowed this person to mistreat me, I would watch their faces change into many expressions; shock, anger. The biggest one being of confusion. The more I said it out loud, the more I realized how foolish I actually sounded... and then one time I was straight up asked …why? Why was that your friend? Why did you stay in that friendship? Why? That was a good question. Of all the excuses I could of come up with, I could only say what it really was. “Because I had low self esteem.” I mean ouch but it was true. That was the only real reason. I allowed myself to be treated this way by someone who obviously hated me because I had low self esteem. Why else do we allow ourselves to feel bad at the hands of someone else? If we felt worthy of better or if we knew better, we would do better. It doesn’t sound too good to acknowledge, does it? Yet, the moment I decided to be honest to myself and others, I was freeing myself of what was considered acceptable and most importantly I was now ready to work on fixing this broken part of me..

With this understanding, I vowed to never allow myself to be treated like that again, no matter the circumstance.

How do I know if I have low self esteem?

Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.