I HAVE LOW SELF ESTEEM AND THAT’S OK.
confidence in your own worth and abilities. Having self respect.
Do you over criticize yourself? Well, i’m no doctor but you might just be diagnosed with low self esteem.
I can hear the “uh uhs” , the “not me” or “NEVERR.” For whatever reason, the thought of having low self esteem or better yet saying that you do out loud to others is viewed as SOCIAL SUICIDE. I mean are you not embarozzed? Are you not disgusted with yourself? Well, guess what? The first step to fixing a problem is by admitting that there is one. And we all can admit that low self esteem is considered a huge no-no in society! Everyone wants to be the bad b***h, the it girl, “himothy”. Pretending that low self esteem doesn’t exist, doesn’t change the fact that you may suffer from it, nor is it going to make it disappear.
I remember dealing with this toxic friendship for too long…like way too damn long. As I would tell people the stories about how I allowed this person to mistreat me, I would watch their faces change into many expressions; shock, anger. The biggest one though? was the face of confusion. The more I said it out loud, the more I realized how foolish I actually sounded... And then one time I was straight up asked …why? Why was that your friend? Why did you stay in that friendship?
“Why?” That was a good question. Of all the excuses I could of come up with, I could only muster up the truth of what it really was. “Because I had low self esteem.” I mean yikes..sad to admit but it was true. That was the only real reason. I allowed myself to be treated this way by someone who obviously hated me because I had low self esteem. Why else do we allow ourselves to feel bad at the hands of someone else? If we felt worthy of better or if we knew better, we would do better. It doesn’t sound too good to acknowledge, does it? Yet, the moment I decided to be honest to myself and others, I was freeing myself of what was considered acceptable and most importantly I was now ready to work on fixing this broken part of me..
How do I know if I have low self esteem?
I accept hot and cold behavior. Breadcrumbs
I make excuses for bad treatment from others.
Giving people the benefit of the doubt multiple times is an absolute no no. Assuming that we are all adults, people tend to know what they are doing. It’s even worse when you’ve expressed your concerns before and they still keep doing it. At that point there should be no more excuses being made for them.